If I ask you; what is the vital ingredient to attain an ideal life?
May be you will say something like alot of money, nice family, caring people, good job, big house etc. But if you are wise enough you may refer towards a PEACEFUL LIFE. Yes, Peace is what a human is always in need of, both in life and after death. But it is important to know how one can tranquilize his life!
Many thought’s will come in your mind about the best way it can be achieved but I see it in the Sunnah of the Prophet(ﷺ).The secret is yet to enroll in light of the following hadees.
Prophet (ﷺ) said:
“From the excellence of one’s Islam is to leave that which does not concern him.”
Yes, this not just a sentence but a key to gain peace in this life and the one after. The point is clear that don’t participate in matters that are not concerned to you. Many a time’s people interfere in things which are not related to them at all. For example many cumbersome people start bothering you by inquiring you about let’s say your watch, by saying: “How much did you buy this for?”
You reply, “This was given to me as a gift”.
Then they would say, “A gift? From whom?”
You reply, “From a friend.”
He would continue, “Your friend from the university? Or your locality? Or elsewhere?”
You reply, “Well, a friend of mine from the university.”
He keeps pressing, “Okay, but what was the occasion?”
You respond, “Well, an occasion, from our university days.”
He then says, “Yes, but what occasion in particular? Graduation? Or when you went on a trip? Or something else?”
He would continue to ask you questions about an utterly worthless matter! I ask you, by Allah, wouldn’t you feel like shouting at him, saying, “do not interfere in that which does not concern you!’
And even worse is if he were to put you in an awkward situation by asking you an embarrassing question in public! Something like what were your grades or your percentage (God forbid if they were not good) in public. Likewise if you or some other kid did a mistake and you were shouted upon and embarrassed in public, it won’t gain any love for him in your heart but a lot of hatred. If he really concerned for you he shouldn’t have asked about your grades in public and or embarrassed you, but asked you separately.
So you get the point that people get easily obsessed with this attitude which will make you unfriendly and hated amongst the people, and so you won’t find peace any way. Often Parents are also seen to shout on their children or slap them in public or in front of other siblings if they made a mistake. This does not make them to improve but to hate those who embarrassed them. So it is important to deal matters appropriately.
The Prophet (ﷺ)had great morals in his life and avoided anything which bothered people that is why he (ﷺ) said:
“From the excellence of one’s Islam is to leave that which does not concern him.”
Before anyone of you might generate his own interpretation of this Hadith, you shall realize that enjoining good and forbidding evil does not come in this category. Enjoining good and forbidding evil is a duty of every Muslim. When you see a person doing wrong stop him, as mentioned by Prophet (ﷺ)
“If one of you sees something wrong, let him change it with his hand; if he cannot, then with his tongue; if he cannot, then with his heart and this is the weakest faith.”
According to another Hadith:
“When people see a wrong-doer and do nothing to stop him, they may well be visited by God with a punishment.”
Yes, this is the responsibility bestowed upon us to help those brothers and sisters of ours who have transgressed their souls. We must deliver the message with best of our ability to them and remind them about their accountability to Allah and pray to Allah to have mercy on them.
Another point to notice is that in western culture people don’t concern about the rights of their fellows. Like they don’t forbid if someone is involved in hideous crime, and often say that it’s somebody’s matter. Whereas Islam made it clear that a society can never be just if people within its boundaries don’t command proper and forbid improper. This too should be wisely done, by not getting people embarrassed in Public, like if somebody got embarrassed by an unwise person in public that “Why you don’t go for Prayer?” Leaving Prayer is an evil, but the person advising is committing another evil, because this attitude won’t bring him to prayer either, but only increase hatred. Rather one should instruct them with best way.
That was the biggest secret to peaceful life shared with you. Not only shall you leave matters that don’t concern you but also command good and stop evil and injustice. If we only applied these two rules in our society, no unrest was to be seen today.
Do apply and share this secret with your dear ones, because all we strive for in this life is peace. May Allah grant us peace in both lives. For any suggestions comment below and help us in improving.
